Article Recommendation: What’s a Man to Do?

This week my wise, gentle friend Elisabeth whom I’m never met but correspond with regularly, wrote a brave article here on Boundless. I say it’s brave, because it takes a lot of courage for a single woman with a quiet spirit to write about the unspoken dynamics between single men and women.

Chatting with Elisabeth this morning, she told me she’s gotten good feedback on the article, mostly from girls, which means it’s more than just me who says it’s accurate and well-done.

In her blog, Elisabeth writes an introduction for the article and says it took her way out of her comfort zone and that a lot of the points can apply to both men and women.

It’s a delicate balance, I know. Over-kindness and over-coldness are equally off track. Selfish rashness and selfish caution: both are outside the kingdom realm.

Believers in Jesus, whether we marry each other or not, are on parallel tracks toward a common goal. This is a lifelong closeness and commitment: not to one another, but to Him.  As C. S. Lewis describes in The Four Loves, we stand — not eye to eye, like lovers — but shoulder to shoulder with eyes on the same goal. And with eyes (and heart) on that goal, we’ll be steering very well.

Sometimes we don’t realize we have the power to hurt others, but as mature men and women, we need to recognize this and plan accordingly.

And honestly? It’s not impossible to get it right.

4 thoughts on “Article Recommendation: What’s a Man to Do?

  1. What a wise, insightful article. I wish I had read it when I was single, but even for a married person there is wisdom here. Thanks for sharing it.

  2. I really liked this article — it is so needed! “Over-kindness and over-coldness are equally off track. Selfish rashness and selfish caution: both are outside the kingdom realm.” So very, very true. I was blessed by the very practical guidance to “get it right.” Thanks for sharing, Anita!
    – Tabitha

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